There is no Exit 9B
I recently heard the idea that life is 50/50 – that 50% of the time you will want the things that are happening, the things you call good. The other 50% can range from a mild dislike to the deepest devastation and despair.
I think we all have our own ratio, but it is 100% true that there will be things and people and states of being and feelings you don’t want.
We leaned a lot on the “life isn’t fair“ motto as part of my family story. But life isn’t fair or unfair… It’s just life. It's like the weather - completely impersonal.
There is no Exit 9B out of the human experience. No one gets to skip out on the full spectrum of experiences and feelings. It can help to remember that this is what life is. Some of it will be amazing, and some of it will be brutally hard.
Most importantly, you are not failing when things are hard. You'll get in a mood, your feelings will be hurt. There will be disappointments and unsavory reactions. And then there's the big stuff -- betrayal, death, illness -- live long enough and it will all happen. You aren't doing it wrong when it does. You are being perfectly human.
Remember -- of course, and it's okay!
If you want support around a hard thing, are struggling to stay in balance or are weighed down by grief, reach out. I offer individual coaching and support for people in all sorts of challenging transitions who don't want to go through it alone.
With love,
