Healthy Holiday Boundaries
Here's how I've been feeling about the upcoming holiday season:
Anxious about uncomfortable conversations I need to have.
Grief and sadness over so much loss this year, as well as with the holidays.
Wanting to find ways to still connect with people and traditions and stay safe.
How are you feeling? Do you relate?
Or are you ready to chuck the whole thing?
This past weekend I had a conversation I was not looking forward to with my dad about canceling the plan we'd made to be together at Thanksgiving.
Some of the factors contributing to the dread were:
I want to see my dad.
I didn't want to disappoint him.
We don't agree on politics, so that can create tension.
We probably won't see each other in person until some time next year.
It's not going to feel like a holiday if I'm not with family.
Gratefully, the conversation went really well -- we were both on the same page about COVID numbers rising and safety as the most important thing.
But I wasn't sure how it would go, so I had played through a lot of versions of the conversation in my head, which caused some anxiety.
This was a great reminder that sometimes the things we're worried about -- like this convo with my dad -- might go better than planned. In fact, after he and I talked about canceling, we had a tender moment sharing how we are missing each other.
If you or anyone you know could use support around boundaries or the holidays, please join me for…
Healthy Holiday Boundaries
How to bring mindful and appropriate boundaries into the holiday season so you feel connected and safe
I hope to see you!
